Where are you giving your best quality time & attention?

So I want to start with a question – when do you think you have most impact?

Is it when you’re focusing on those things in your to do list you’re doing because it’s the most responsible or practical thing you could be doing and to help you move forwards. Or, is it when you are focused on something that gives you an energy and joy and awakens your passion.

I mention this as we were having this discussion in the Unstoppable Together Network group i’m running and someone come up with a beautiful analogy. We were discussing the fact that for many of us we leave the things that we most care about, the part of our work that matters most to us, to those odds and sods of times that are left when we’ve done everything else on our to do list.

The analogy he came up with was that it’s like leaving having to leave the chocolate desert to the end of the meal when you’ve really earned it, even though that’s the bit you’re really excited about. Fine maybe for cake, but does that still make sense when it’s where our creative energies are most engaged.

So the experiment I’d like you to play with this week is to turn this equation on its head.

Give your best quality time and attention to the thing that is giving you most energy and joy work wise at the moment and judge for yourself where you have the most impact.

In my personal experience when I focus on  the area that has most energy for me there’s an ease and freedom of flow and effectiveness that comes that isn’t present in the same way when I’m doing something that feels responsible.

For me that might be focusing on doing a job application where my heart’s not quite in it versus creating a new service for my business that springs from genuine insight and need and makes my heart sing.

Let me know how you get on and where you think the biggest impact of achieved??

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Real time responsiveness vs fortune telling

Something I’ve been struggling with over the past few days is the curse of thinking that you can or need to work something out before you make a start on it.

This is not to say that it can’t be very helpful to be thoughtful about embarking on any kind of project or undertaking, but when you start to feel “I really need to get clear in my own head how this is going to work” before you start on it, it can become very disabling because you’re missing a vital ingredient – reality!

Something that you are working out in your head can only ever be a product of your imagination, where as the act of creation is of necessity your interaction with other other realities, and most likely that means conversations with other people.

We tend to OVERPLAY our ability to analyse and be outstanding fortune tellers and determine what’s going to work in advance, and we UNDERPLAY the absolute potency of our real-time responsive intelligence to adapt and navigate and tweak as we go.

I’ll report back how I’m getting on but I’d love to hear if there’s any examples where you’ve been seeing this at work for yourself?

Urgency – friend or foe!

My nugget of wisdom for the day is about urgency and that sense of urgency that we get when we feel like unless we get that job sorted…unless we see income coming in…unless we get that project live – we’re not going to be okay.

So we push ourselves to keep sprinting forwards – that can be productive at times, and other times it can be utterly exhausting.

For most of us who are reinventing or imagining what we do with our lives it’s a long game – not a sprint. It can sometimes look like that feeling of urgency is is a natural, inevitable and helpful state of mind to be in when we’re doing something important, but the truth is that the feeling is a product of us outsourcing our okness, our wellbeing and security to some imagined future event e.g. my life will be better when this is sorted.

If you’re anything like me I do better when I am jogging at the speed of life rather than constantly pressuring myself to sprint to get ahead, and having my mind sped up and racing. So I invite you to get curious next time you feel that sense of urgency building about whether it’s serving you or not and I’d love to know your experiences.

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Work life balance does not mean getting home on time (except when it does)

  On this Go Home on Time day I hope you are making a timely return to domestic bliss. An appropriate moment to challenge the conventional thinking about the myth of work life balance. Working with a group of entrepreneurs this week we had a fascinating discussion about what work life balance really is. We … Read more Work life balance does not mean getting home on time (except when it does)

When unstoppable is the last thing you feel!

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